Have you ever had one of those days when the world feels it's spinning too fast? That the slightest false move might knock you right off the planet?
Often, it's just a sign that you need to be extra gentle with yourself. Beating yourself up over feeling hypersensitive will just make you feel worse.
So do something kind for yourself: Walk, watch a nice movie, take a hot bath (add some pink food colouring and bubbles for extra comfort), make yourself some hot chocolate, take some Rescue Remedy, phone or meet a friend, let it all out in your diary, do some EFT, lose yourself in a good book or book an afternoon / day / week off as a promise that you're going to take better care of your own needs...
If you're familiar enough with NLP, step "off" your timeline and "into the void". This is a bizarre sensation which will help you release any stresses before returning to real life feeling rested, refreshed and wise. (If you'd like to know more, email eve@applecoaching.com).
Even though you may be really busy with work or a family situation, the fact that things feel as if they're spiralling is a sign that you should try something different.
You'll be in a much better position to handle the fall out from that error / row when you've sorted yourself out. Taking yourself out of the stressful situation and treating yourself with compassion will give you the perspective you need to return to it later.
I'd love to hear how you get on.
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Thursday 22 May 2008
Tuesday 13 May 2008
Taking care of yourself
Coaching in Spain last week was really good. It was lovely to meet the participants and I'm looking forward to going to the second Spanish property (near Seville) at the end of next week.
Being away from the day to day commitments means there's more time to think about how things could be even better.
The daily yoga, Pilates and swimming was just what I needed, too.
One of the most challenging things about being a coach is putting into practice all the the things I know I would benefit from doing myself.
I'm endlessly talking to clients about prioritising their wellbeing so they don't burn out / end up resenting the people they love etc.
Yet I completely understand how it can be tough to do this. We're (especially women) often brought up to think of meeting our own (or even acknowledging our own) needs as selfish.
But when you take good care of yourself, everyone in your life - from your loved ones to colleagues, neighbours and even strangers in the street - will benefit.
Who do you find it hard to say "No" to? Do you ever catch yourself feeling like a martyr? By spending a few moments thinking about triggers that often lead to exhaustion and resentment, you'll be better able to take care of yourself in the future.
If you find the idea of caring for yourself to be challenging, I'd recommend reading Cheryl Richardson's wonderful books for pointers. She also has some Extreme Self Care cards which can help you get into the habit of looking after the most important person in your life - you.
To sign up for confidence tips straight to your inbox, please visit www.applecoaching.com
Being away from the day to day commitments means there's more time to think about how things could be even better.
The daily yoga, Pilates and swimming was just what I needed, too.
One of the most challenging things about being a coach is putting into practice all the the things I know I would benefit from doing myself.
I'm endlessly talking to clients about prioritising their wellbeing so they don't burn out / end up resenting the people they love etc.
Yet I completely understand how it can be tough to do this. We're (especially women) often brought up to think of meeting our own (or even acknowledging our own) needs as selfish.
But when you take good care of yourself, everyone in your life - from your loved ones to colleagues, neighbours and even strangers in the street - will benefit.
Who do you find it hard to say "No" to? Do you ever catch yourself feeling like a martyr? By spending a few moments thinking about triggers that often lead to exhaustion and resentment, you'll be better able to take care of yourself in the future.
If you find the idea of caring for yourself to be challenging, I'd recommend reading Cheryl Richardson's wonderful books for pointers. She also has some Extreme Self Care cards which can help you get into the habit of looking after the most important person in your life - you.
To sign up for confidence tips straight to your inbox, please visit www.applecoaching.com
Friday 2 May 2008
Making the most of who you are - 100%
I'm heading off to Andalucia tonight to run the first of six week long coaching courses for www.Well-Being-Breaks.com
My weeks are themed "re-invent yourself" but it's really about making the best of the person you are.
No one should ever try to be anyone other than themselves. Often, you'll notice that the people you admire the most - whether they're people you know personally or performers, scientists, entrepreneurs, athletes or anyone else - are people who are 100% true to themselves.
If you weren't afraid of what other people might say about you, what would you be doing differently? Would you be more confident, assertive and creative at work? More loving and carefree at home?
Make a list of the people you admire and what it is you're particularly drawn to. I'm sure I'll think of loads of people later on when it's too late to add more, but to start my own list:
1) Oprah for knowing how to present all sorts of inspirational and entertaining information so it's accessible to lots of people.
2) The Dalai Lama for smiling and being a force for peace in spite of all he's endured.
3) Gloria Steinem for helping so many women and men recognise that "women are whole people, too" without being anti-men.
4) David Lynch for expressing himself so fully and confidently (even when, at the end of a film, I'm utterly clueless as to how it all makes sense, I love the way he just allows his visions to unfold).
5) Kathy Reichs, Pearl Cleage, Marian Keyes, Sara Paretsky, Sue Grafton and a million other fiction writers who, again, go with their imaginary worlds and follow them so completely, you feel like you're there when you read them...
Even if it's just for a few minutes, allow your mind to wander... What would you do differently today, this week, this year, if you allowed your intuition and gut to guide your every move instead of second guessing yourself?
List the ideas that crop up and see where it takes you...
I'd love to hear how you get on. You can email me at eve@applecoaching.com
And if you'd like free coaching tips by email, you can subscribe at www.applecoaching.com
My weeks are themed "re-invent yourself" but it's really about making the best of the person you are.
No one should ever try to be anyone other than themselves. Often, you'll notice that the people you admire the most - whether they're people you know personally or performers, scientists, entrepreneurs, athletes or anyone else - are people who are 100% true to themselves.
If you weren't afraid of what other people might say about you, what would you be doing differently? Would you be more confident, assertive and creative at work? More loving and carefree at home?
Make a list of the people you admire and what it is you're particularly drawn to. I'm sure I'll think of loads of people later on when it's too late to add more, but to start my own list:
1) Oprah for knowing how to present all sorts of inspirational and entertaining information so it's accessible to lots of people.
2) The Dalai Lama for smiling and being a force for peace in spite of all he's endured.
3) Gloria Steinem for helping so many women and men recognise that "women are whole people, too" without being anti-men.
4) David Lynch for expressing himself so fully and confidently (even when, at the end of a film, I'm utterly clueless as to how it all makes sense, I love the way he just allows his visions to unfold).
5) Kathy Reichs, Pearl Cleage, Marian Keyes, Sara Paretsky, Sue Grafton and a million other fiction writers who, again, go with their imaginary worlds and follow them so completely, you feel like you're there when you read them...
Even if it's just for a few minutes, allow your mind to wander... What would you do differently today, this week, this year, if you allowed your intuition and gut to guide your every move instead of second guessing yourself?
List the ideas that crop up and see where it takes you...
I'd love to hear how you get on. You can email me at eve@applecoaching.com
And if you'd like free coaching tips by email, you can subscribe at www.applecoaching.com
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