Asking for help

When you think about something you want to bring into your life, can you think of anyone who could help? Someone who maybe did what you want to do so could offer some advice?

How comfortable do you feel about asking them to help you?

I have to be honest. I hate asking for help. I much prefer being able to help other people. But this morning I resolved to email someone who I hoped could offer me some advice.

I figured that even if she said "no", I'd be off the hook (with myself) for having asked. In fact, she's very happy to help.

Emboldened, I got in touch with one of my favourite authors (Isabel Losada) about a commission for a magazine I write for regularly. I didn't know if I'd hear back but she couldn't have been more gracious or helpful.

Can you think of a goal you have where you could use some outside help? Yes, reading books is wonderful, but sometimes, picking up the phone, knocking on a door or sending a letter or email is better.

Who can help you get what you want in life? A former colleague? An old friend? A neighbour? List three people you've been putting off asking:

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Go on... What's the worst that can happen? Even if they feel unable to help you right now, you'll have expanded your comfort zones by having asked.

I love hearing how you're getting on so please keep your emails coming (eve@applecoaching.com).

All best wishes,

Eve

© Eve Menezes Cunningham / www.applecoaching.com 2008