When I was starting out as a coach, I felt that I should be perfect. But over the years, I've realised that the fact that I've had to use all these coaching, NLP and complementary tools myself allows me to have more empathy for my clients.
I was reminded of this ridiculous pressure I used to put on myself a few days ago. I'd been interviewed for Psychologies and myself and the other women in the piece had gone to Brixton for an all day photoshoot.
Some seemed far more extraverted and confident than me but when one of them asked about my own confidence and confidence coaching, it just wasn't an issue.
Confidence is different for everyone. For you it might mean making a phone call you've been putting off, for someone else, singing Kareoke in a crowded bar. For one person it might be going to a party (or even to a local shop) sober and for another person, it could be singing live in front of a crowd of thousands.
What challenges your confidence?
While I'm definitely more confident now than I've ever been, I'll probably never be the kind of person who feels completely at ease in front of a camera (or having hair and make up done). And that's fine.
I've coached clients whose lives are hard for me to imagine. But I love helping them access their own confidence reserves so they can fly even higher. Other clients are so shy that little steps are enormous for them.
Basically, I now have the confidence to know that as long as I can help people, it's OK to feel shy / nervous / excited about things. I'm constantly pushing out my own comfort zones.
© Eve Menezes Cunningham / http://www.applecoaching.com/ 2008. All rights reserved.
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