I know a few people who seem to believe that being miserable somehow makes them "better" or more intelligent that happy people. But no one is either / or. Sure, a lot is down to temperament, but anyone can choose to become happier.
Think about the things you're focusing your attention on. If you're feeling down, is watching the sensationalised news going to make you feel better or might it increase your feelings of helplessness and despair?
Are there people in your life who literally suck the life right out of you? Known as "energy vampires" they get away with it because you let them. For some people, ending relationships and friendships feels necessary but in most situations, you just have to set new boundaries.
Next time conversation shifts to criticism (of you or the world in general), experiment with phrases that let them know you're no longer willing to take on their misery and judgement.
It will take a concerted effort on your part but keep going and you'll find your happiness muscles get stronger every day...
© Eve Menezes Cunningham / www.applecoaching.com 2008.
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