When I went downstairs to find my kitchen on fire (nearly a year ago to the day), I opened the front door yelling "Help! Fire!" into the street without thinking as I dialled 999.
Two fire fighters came over today to do an assesment. While it dredged up a lot of the trauma again (although, who am I kidding - I'm still checking for fire on a more regular basis than is ideal), it was also very healing.
One of them had been first on the scene. How they do such a job, I'll never know but I'm very grateful.
In cases of emergency, no matter how reserved you are naturally, you'll probably overcome this and scream your lungs out if necessary to get help.
Yet when it comes to simple things and help that so many people would love to offer, we hold back. We don't like feeling indebted or don't want to put people out.
Pretend, just for a second, that your life is an emergency. It's essential that you make it the best it can possibly be.
Who can help you make the progress you need to make?
Who might be able to share resources and offer advice?
Get out of your own way and when people offer to help (whether that's babysitting, explaining a report at work or role playing before an interview), practice accepting.
If you genuinely can't think of any area you'd benefit from assistance in, turn your focus outwards. Is someone in your household struggling? Maybe a neighbour could use a friendly cup of tea and chat?
By getting into the habit of helping and letting yourself be helped, you'll find yourself filled with warm fuzzy feelings on a regular basis.
© Eve Menezes Cunningham / www.applecoaching.com 2009.
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