How are you training people to treat you?

Setting boundaries can be hard.

We all want to be liked so can easily ignore people intruding in different ways (expecting free childcare / you to pick up their slack at work / noisy neighbours / people who just won't get off the phone and so on) until it makes you want to scream.

Think about your life right now.

Look at different areas and list all the people who are annoying you. They may be at home, at work or even at the gym but list every annoyance.

What do these people and their treatment of you have in common?

Are you great at setting boundaries for your children but a pushover in the office (or the other way round)?

Are you assertive with strangers but unable to say what you need to the people you love the most? (This is pretty common - the more we care about someone, the more we fear losing them so we hold stuff back).

Think of small steps you can start taking right now to make little changes and build up until you've trained everyone in your life that you're worth treating with respect and kindness.