Watching last week's Brothers and Sisters, when Sally Field's character, Nora, said her eyes are staying open, made me think of the (scary) Group sessions that make up part of my psychosynthesis training.
I need to keep my eyes wide open as I look at myself and my patterns - even when I want to fast forward through something uncomfortable, cover my eyes or just shut them tight.
Is there an area of your life that you've been "turning a blind eye" to? What are you now willing to see? Are there things that you're afraid to look at closely?
Will shielding yourself make these unpleasant aspects go away or are you setting yourself up to have to handle something even messier in the future?
How can you begin to open your eyes to your life - in a way that's appropriate - more?
Is there a friend or someone else who can help you?
No matter what you find, I think it's always better to know what you're dealing with. Even with eyes shut tightly, our imaginations can make things seem even worse.
© Eve Menezes Cunningham / www.applecoaching.com 2009.
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Monday, 11 May 2009
Monday, 15 December 2008
Everyone's talking - must be about me
The final episode of Brothers & Sisters (S2) made me laugh. Both Saul and Kevin walked into a tense looking room and automatically assumed that everyone was talking about them.
Have you ever done that? Blurted out something that was still safely a secret because it was so prominent in your mind you assumed everyone else knew?
With party season in full swing, walking into crowded rooms where everyone's talking is pretty normal. What will help you feel more relaxed?
. when you arrive, assess the situation. Don't immediately feel you have to contribute to a conversation you've not been part of. Listen until you feel caught up then take it from there.
. if you're really nervous, think about meeting a friend (or even stranger) beforehand. I've done this a few times this year with work events and it's made a huge difference to my enjoyment of the parties. I always spoke to people when I arrived alone but, by arriving with others, I was able to invite people who looked like they were on their own to join us.
. wear something you feel comfortable in. Will your party outfit see you through the whole night (from walking to stations / being stuck in traffic on icy roads / dancing / standing up for hours...)?
. Pick and choose the invites you accept. Go to the ones you feel good about. Not sure? Pick up that invitation again / open the email and check in with yourself. Does your heart sink or excitement bubble?
Have fun!
© Eve Menezes Cunningham / www.applecoaching.com 2008.
Have you ever done that? Blurted out something that was still safely a secret because it was so prominent in your mind you assumed everyone else knew?
With party season in full swing, walking into crowded rooms where everyone's talking is pretty normal. What will help you feel more relaxed?
. when you arrive, assess the situation. Don't immediately feel you have to contribute to a conversation you've not been part of. Listen until you feel caught up then take it from there.
. if you're really nervous, think about meeting a friend (or even stranger) beforehand. I've done this a few times this year with work events and it's made a huge difference to my enjoyment of the parties. I always spoke to people when I arrived alone but, by arriving with others, I was able to invite people who looked like they were on their own to join us.
. wear something you feel comfortable in. Will your party outfit see you through the whole night (from walking to stations / being stuck in traffic on icy roads / dancing / standing up for hours...)?
. Pick and choose the invites you accept. Go to the ones you feel good about. Not sure? Pick up that invitation again / open the email and check in with yourself. Does your heart sink or excitement bubble?
Have fun!
© Eve Menezes Cunningham / www.applecoaching.com 2008.
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