Whose hands is your life in?

"Take your life in your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one is to blame" - Erica Jong

Is there an area of your life which would be perfect if only _________ would do _____?

Forget it. You know by now that the only person you can change is yourself.

How can you take more responsibility for this area of your life?

How can you remind yourself of all the resources you have instead of allowing yourself to feel helpless and out of control?

Acknowledging the power you have, day to day, to affect your own destiny will make you far happier than fixating on the things that you can't control.

Stephen Covey talks about the Circle of Concern (all the things you may worry about) and Circle of Influence (the things you can actually change or affect in some way).

Ideally, you can expand your Circle of Influence by taking more action around the things that concern you.

This may involved talking to people who can help with a situation too big to handle yourself. It might even writing to a politician or getting involved with a campaigning group to allow your voice to be heard.

Decide to take charge. Anytime you want to blame someone, get into the habit of thinking about the kind of action you'd like to take if you were in their situation as well as actions you can take in your own situation.